Be prepared! Not only is it a great foundational success principle, it’s also the scout’s motto and will help you get through your joint mediation session.

Being organised for your mediation session will set the session off on the right foot. Not only does being better prepared allow you to think more clearly, it also helps take away some of the anxiety associated with the mediation, and takes off some of the pressure on your mind to think clearly. Something as small as feeling lost in a building or running late can add to this pressure, making it even more difficult to make necessary decisions. The more prepared you are the more relaxed you can be about the mediation session.

Prior to a mediation it’s best if you can prepare yourself physically and mentally. You’ll need to make an informed decision on the day, so prior to the joint session ask yourself some very important questions like these:

● What location and facilities will be available?

● Do I need to take snacks, lunch, hot drinks, water?

● Apart from the mediator who else will be present?

● Would I like to have a support person present. Is this ok? How do I organise this?

● Do I need my lawyer there or will they be available to me via telephone?

● Are there any documents that I don’t have that I will need to have at least sighted to be confident about its contents?

● Is there any other information that I want before the joint session so that I can think it through beforehand?

● Have I sought and obtained the advice that I respect and require so that I can weigh it up before the day? Whether it is financial advice, legal advice or family advice?

● What are my non-negotiables, what would I be ok to negotiate on?

The more prepared you are before the joint mediation session the more comfortable and confident you will be on the day. This also means that you will have the headspace to be able to think more clearly on the day and make the best decisions for yourself. And while you are attending a mediation to resolve a dispute of some kind, it doesn’t have to be a negative experience, rather a stepping stone to a better future.